I usually talk about investments and things relating to financial matters, but I feel I need to take a step back and reiterate the importance of positive stimulation and nurturing creativity in people. I will begin by recalling an incident earlier today. I was re-reading one of my favorite books, “The Intelligent Investor” by Benjamin Graham when my two-year old niece came up and grabbed the book and ran off with it. I didn’t get mad, instead I laughed and began to chase after her. I grabbed her and she laughed uncontrollably and started flipping through the book. It was then that my sister yelled at her and told her to give the book back to me. She told her, “Give the book back to Brandon, that’s a boring book, Brandon reads boring books.” I responded, “don’t tell her that!” ” I don’t read boring books. I read books that can help you. They are not boring.” And my sister responded with, ” She belongs to me and they’re boring to me, so I’ll tell her whatever I want.”
This is a most dangerous way of thinking and is infectious. My sister and I are exact opposites. She is a negative person and always talks negatively about others. I am determined, generally happy and some say I’m a incurable optimist. How is it that I’m a optimist and my sister a pessimist? We were raised in the same household by the same parents. The answer is what the individual focuses on. Your thoughts affect what you focus on and what you tend to focus your efforts on changes how you see the world. Change your thoughts, change your world.
To go back to the incident with my niece and sister, I really want to stress the importance of allowing your child, if you have one, or future child if you plan to later on in your life, the chance to explore and not shut them out of things, events, or experiences even if you don’t agree with it. To tell a child not to touch a book because it is boring is a fallicy in the parents perception. As I said, my sister is generally a negetive person. Now I’m not saying she is a bad person, just that she generally has a negative perception of life and on people. What is boring to one may be exciting to another. What you focus on can literally change your world.
When I was twenty I found my true calling and it happened by pure accident. During the school year of 2011 I was staying with my aunt and uncle finishing my senior year of high school. While staying with them I would lift weights just about every other day. I made it a ritual to always watch motivational videos usually of powerlifter or bodybuilders but during one of the videos a man spoke in the background about the mind and how it had the potential to change your world. The “power of thoughts” I heard him say and I have always been obsessed with the body’s ability to change, grow stronger, how bones heal, how the brain grows neural pathways to learn new things. I was instantly intrigued by his words and I began to research and find out who it was. I asked in the comments but no one replied or knew. It took me three weeks but I finally found out it was Napoleon Hill.
I began to research all I could about Mr. Hill and came upon the book “Think and Grow Rich”. Not only did I ultimately purchase the book but I dug further and found out that the book had come into existence because of a meeting he had with the great industrialist and philanthropist Andrew Carnegie. I even researched and read Andrew Carnegie’s biography and learned he had started in poverty and through determination, having a sense of purpose and knowing what he wanted and going after it he was able to see and take dvantage of opportunities and rise to the top and become the richest man in the world!
It was then that I decided from here on out I would do the same. I began by believing that I too could become rich and as I believed it was not only a possibility but that it was inevitable my life began to change. I thought if I could become rich I could help my parents in their life and in their retirement. My parents have worked hard and my dad has gotten up at 4-5 am every morning for the past 20+ years to provide for us. He has done everything he can to help me and now its time for me to help him.
I began by reading everything I could about personal finance, from saving accounts to credit scores to mortgages and learning what interest rates are. Then I moved on to learning about investments, from what a brokerage account is, to stocks and bonds, mutual funds, compound interest, the tax laws and loopholes, to studying various businesses and sectors. I even taught myself basic accounting and how to read financial statements and how to make an investment portfolio by observing companies financial statements. I got so good that my portfolio started beating the market. I even go so good that my portfolio began to beat the portfolios of billionaires via the ibillionaire app. (Although to be fair they manage way more money than me).
Think and Grow Rich
The book highlights the importance of thoughts and how to transcend those thoughts into their physical equivalents. Mr. Hill speaks about the importance of having a positive mental attitude in any and ever aspect of life because it opens you up to opportunities to help you along the way to finding your passion and calling in life. The book has examples from real men who have used the powers of their minds to turn their passion and opportunities into businesses and have become very successful in their lives. The book gives highlights and interviews from the likes of Henry Ford, Thomas Edison, William Wrigley Jr., Theodore Roosevelt, Charles M. Schwab and of course Andrew Carnegie among many others.
The Importance of Positive Thinking
Now you see it is important to have a positive demeanor. See things differently than others and your life will flourish. If you have a child or even if you don’t you may be around some, try and be a positive stimulus for them. Give them encouraging words and uplift them. Instead of putting them in a play pin by themselves, play and laugh with the child as it will help with healthy brain development. If a child is trying to do something on their own, let them be. Let the child explore and if they fall or fail at whatever task they are doing just be there to encourage them to try again. It will show them that success is not achieved all at once but through repetitive efforts. In addition, the more children and people in general, do a task we get better at it because our neural pathways grow and shape to allow us to become more fluent at the task.
Another important thing to remember is to always give your child a choice. I remember growing up my dad wouldn’t just get us a toy or something we wanted, he would ask us to choose between two things. I believe it developed critical thinking and made me think carefully about my choice. But that’s what life is. Our lives are shaped by the choices we make. Our choices are shaped by our thinking and I choose to focus on the positive.
How to live a Positive and Fulfilling Life
- Think positive thoughts. If you go to work hating your job you either need to find a new one or change how you think about it. So many people hate going to work. Instead, you should be glad to work. Be grateful that you have a job. If you have a job, you are making money and if so then you also have money to spend which helps the economy. Not only are you helping the economy but your helping the business that employs you. Be grateful that you have a job so you can support your family and make a living.
- Quit watching so much television. Just stop. If you want to see a difference in your life set a goal and make a commitment then and there to work towards it. A better habit is reading. I am a vicarious reader. Don’t just read to be entertained. Read to help you in your field or a field of work you may want to go into or switch to. Become an acquirer of knowledge, it will open up opportunities for you.
- Set a goal. Know what it is you want and strive to reach it. Break up your goal into smaller more easily attainable goals. As you work towards it and have a positive attitude about it you will enjoy more of what life has to offer. You can start by writing a daily list of things to do but include a part that will help you toward your goal. Always strive to do something daily to get you closer to your goal. Whether it’s monetarily, physically, mentally, or relationship wise, always move forward.
I hope what I said will sink in. If not, please re-reading this article. I do my best to help people and I want you to succeed in your life. Remember, show children that they can do anything if they set their minds to it. As Napoleon Hill said, “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe the mind can achieve. ” Have a positive outlook on life and help others along the way. Stimulate your mind to grow by reading, grow your knowledge base and others will start to see you as an expert in your field. Find joy in work, as you show enthusiasm opportunities will open up for you.
To your success,